Guilt can really leave you feeling terrible. It makes you question and second guess everything that you do or don’t do as a caregiver. Because of that, it’s no wonder that so many caregivers want to banish guilt entirely from their lives forever.
Don’t Even Try
The very first step you need to take when you’re trying to get rid of guilt for good is to avoid even trying. You’re going to do this dance with guilt many more times, honestly. It’s how you handle the situation that makes the biggest difference. As you get better and better about managing the guilt as soon as it pops up, you’ll feel less obligated to completely get rid of it. You’ll be able to acknowledge it and move on.
Strive for Balance
The best thing for you to focus on as a caregiver is balancing your time and your energy as well as you can. You can only do so much, no matter how much you want to be doing. One way you can balance life more readily is to hire home care providers. They can help you to determine where you need to personally spend your energy.
Check Your Motivations
If you’re allowing your guilt to motivate you, you’re going to end up doing things that you don’t want to do or that you can’t do. Afterward, you may not be wrestling with guilt, but you’ll likely be facing resentment. Instead of trading one emotion that makes you feel awful for another, give yourself a break from the guilt. Provide help and care for your elderly family member because that’s what you want to do. Don’t allow guilt to drive the bus.
Accept Your Humanity
You’re a caregiver, but you’re first a human being. You’re going to have good days, bad days, and days that fall in between. Some days you’ll get everything right and others are going to challenge you and cause you to struggle. That is all part of life and part of being a caregiver as well. Accept your humanity and resolve to do the best that you can do.
Just because guilt is sometimes painful, that doesn’t mean that it can’t help you. Guilt can help you to examine what you’re doing as a caregiver and where you might do something different. It can also help you to see that you’re actually far more effective as a caregiver than you think you are.
If you or an aging loved-one are considering Elder Care in Glenolden, PA, please contact the friendly staff at Suma Home Care. Call today: 484-200-7347
Ibrahim recently completed a Professional Certificate in Management; He is currently pursuing a Masters in Business Administrations (MBA) at a prestigious university in the UK.
With their passion for helping others and a strong background in customer services and clinical care, Ibrahim and his wife started assisting individuals in their homes.
Since started and operating Suma Home Care in 2010 in the basement of their home, Suma Home Care has provided professionals who work endlessly in providing clients with the highest quality of care, while enabling clients to maintain dignity, comfort and safety in their homes.
Suma Home Care, serves four counties in Pennsylvania, Delaware, Chester, Montgomery and Philadelphia. Ibrahim is firmly connected to his local community and is always looking for ways to give back whenever the opportunity presents itself.
Ibrahim enjoys spending time with his wife and children, travelling and enjoys sports.
Mariama Suma-Keita BSN RN
Born in Sierra Leone west Africa, relocated to America in 1999 from a civil war and settled since in the U.S.A as a Naturalized citizen Graduated from National school of nursing with an associate , and completed BSN in Nursing from Immaculata University graduated with Honor roll Alpha Lambda sigma, After escaping the war served as a refugee nurse in Gambia and Guinea to other displaced refugees before coming to America.
In the states started in Homecare then then transition into hospital, worked in Jefferson hospital as a Registered nurse on Tele and general medsurg floor, also worked in Einstein hospital as an oncology transplant nurse , I realized that I enjoy working with patients so much and believe in quality and compassionate care one at a time dealing with an holistic approach in caring for patients and family in a familiar environment called home , I see the impact and progress when they’re home , it makes them feel relax and progress fast with recovering at home. As a nurse and entrepreneur I understand that dedication to meeting people and families needs is a priority, and able to foster relationships with family and patients that is professional and friendly to help them stay and settled home as a desire.
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